Father’s Day 2018

Father’s Day 2018

Father’s Day, a special day to honor fathers.  As I write this Dan is coaching a Little League game. He is coaching with Tim, our son, who is also a father.  On the team is Tim’s 12 year old son, one of our five grandchildren.  It is the last game of the season.  This may be the last time these two fathers have the opportunity to coach LL together – with much sadness they think this is so, I’m not so sure.  Time will tell.  To me, on this day before Father’s Day, what they are doing is one day in the greatest of love stories,  This story includes not only them, father and son, but my father as well.

I shall try to tell this baseball love story through my eyes, watching it for the past nearly 40 years.  Baseball is only the vessel, or vehicle perhaps, in and through which this story unfolds.  Not that baseball isn’t one of their passions!  Believe me, they all shared a passion for the sport, especially Little League.  But passions, I think, are developed, nurtured over time, under certain conditions.  And in this story of mine, those conditions are love, time, and dedication.  Their many talents and skills, innate and learned along the way flourished under these conditions.

I don’t really remember quite how the beginning of this baseball love story all came to be – I’m sure Dan could fill in the details for me, but it’s my story, so…  When our children were young, about 7 and 5, my dad recruited Dan to help coach LL baseball when my brother was playing. We were part of the group to begin official LL in our area.  I recall many meetings before Coastal Little League was a reality.  A desire to see something done correctly, well and be sustainable brought people together, for the players – children ages 9-12 at the start.  Dad and Dan, working together, were instrumental in making that happen.  Looking back, this was the first test of the conditions of my story – love, time, and dedication.  My dad and Dan’s relationship strengthened and flourished through their shared passion for youth sports, in this case baseball.  

And so it was, before our children were old enough to play, Dan became a LL coach.  And because we always did everything together – our children grew up at the ball field.  And the baseball love story flourished – often with my dad keeping score, Dan coaching, and our son usually sitting on the bench, soaking it all in.  All-star play was especially exciting in those beginning years with Dad as official scorer, a role he kept for years, and Dan learning to become the great coach he is today. And then it came time for our children to play – first our daughter who went on after LL to play softball in middle school and high school, and then our son, where the father-son baseball love story took on a life of its own.

Dan loved coaching Tim’s team, and they were a fun bunch of kids.  Tiny, but mighty.  We lived LL baseball for four years. (Many more before and after, but four with Tim in LL.)   Regular season, all-stars, tournaments, Blue Hill Fair – they just couldn’t get enough baseball.  The summer of 1990 was maybe the pinnacle of the LL experience for many of those involved.  It was a magical summer.  Father and son lobstered together by day and played baseball at night.  If they weren’t playing baseball, they were talking baseball, strategizing and preparing for the next big game.  As a catcher, Tim became the coach on the field, able to see the game only as one with experience can – at 12.  The highlight of this summer was making it to the State Tournament.  I well remember seeing them all -grandfather (my dad), father, and son as they looked over the beautiful new field they would be playing on, as they worked together, again – scorekeeper, coach, and player over the course of the tournament.  There were so many moments lived and memories made that are truly priceless from those few days.  Not just for them of course, but my story is about them, the fathers in this love story.  Love, time, and dedication: to youth baseball, to doing things well, to one another, sustained over time, through love.

Dan continued to coach Tim’s team until there weren’t teams for Tim to play on that he could  coach. Tim played in high school, American Legion ball, and in college.  His dad always there to watch him.  Love, time, and dedication – most of all love – from it the others come.  But the love story had been written and couldn’t end when a boy is 12 or 14 or when there isn’t a team to coach.  There’s always a team to coach!  Because when you’ve built something correctly and well, and you nurture it through the years, it not only sustains, but thrives, flourishes.  And so started a new chapter in this love story – father and son coaching together, son as coach with father helping.  It never matters to Dan.  As much as he loved coaching Tim, he loves coaching with Tim.  He admires his son’s knowledge and skills, the way he conducts himself, his way of working with youth. Dan talks with me about the things he can contribute to their shared passion when working together.  “What love and dedication,” I think! 

Dan’s early coaching led him to coaching many other youth sports over the years with our daughter Mandy and Tim, and even with our grandchildren beginning with PeeWee basketball 14 or 15 years ago.  This year, 36 years after that first season of baseball, he coached his granddaughters’ elementary school basketball teams with Tim and Mandy both working with him.  Love, time, and dedication: to youth sports, to doing things well, to one another, sustained over time,  all through love.

Today I think of my father and how very happy, and yes – proud he would be to know how this love story has flourished. Grandfather and father coaching the son.  Giving one another love, time, and dedication.  And doing it well.  May all children experience such love.  My timeless love story, never to end…

 

And yes Dad (and all you other Coastal LL baseball fans out there), even though they are coaching and playing for what was once their rival team, they won the league championship today!

 

Camp

Camp.  It’s always really just been “camp” to me.  Not our family camp, Mom and Dad’s camp, Dan’s and my camp, the Salt Pond Camp – just camp.  An entity, evolving over generations, ready to take whatever shape or serve whatever purpose is needed at the time.  For many generations it was part of a larger tract of land owned by the paternal side of my family.  And as often happens,  the land was divided so siblings could all have a share.

My parents chose to keep the spot I refer to as camp.   It is a perfect spot, with a brook running through, tall oaks with their roots holding onto the banks while leaning toward and over the water, an ever shifting kinda maybe beach, just the right mix of sand and mud for any kind of soup or pie, a ledge popping up for gulls and ducks and children to sit atop and soak in the sun.  That’s Freddie’s rock – my grandchildren still call it that for their great-uncle Freddie, named for his (our) grandfather Freddie.  Over the years appeared first a tent site, a platform, a camp, a larger camp, a deck, a renovation or two…all the while still camp.  Cross the brook and climb the hill, and you’ll find the field – home to resting geese, monarchs, birthing does, and  to foxes hunting mice, a perfect field for flying kites or chasing bubbles.  Today it is also home to two Nigerian Dwarf goats, Dottie and Matilda, and to our  vegetable garden.

My grandchildren coming to camp to spend days with me is now Camp Gramma.  Someday I’ll write about Camp Gramma. I’m not sure I can begin to adequately describe how wonderful our summers have been, but someday I’ll try.  To share my love for this place I call camp with all my grandchildren is one of my life’s greatest blessings.  Beginning with our oldest, now 21, they’ve all spent hours and hours doing the summer work of childhood – play. Playing in, on and with the water, the sand, the mud, the ferns, the tall grass.   Exploring the brook, the leaf litter, and climbing trees, playing in the playhouse that was once their Gramma’s, brought to camp by her parents long ago, used for storage, and then once again as a place for play. Camp will remain in their hearts and minds forever, wherever their lives carry them.

Dan and I will always be grateful to my parents for entrusting us with camp.  They must have known how much we would both come to love it.  Mama got to see that that was so.  I like to think they both are here with us watching their great- grandchildren love what they loved so.

Just as our winter home with the kitchen window view of the mountain brings me joy watching the birds and deer, safe and cozy as the snow piles up throughout the winter months, camp now feeds my soul in a deep and fulfilling way  as I do my hard work of keeping my body and mind healthy.  Being in the midst of  the wonders of our natural world, sharing your love for a place with those you love, and knowing that you’re part of something much bigger, longer lasting than any of us – generations before and generations to come, is an awesome experience.  And here I am, finding joy in the wonders of the everyday, every day.  camp.

When IS the cure worse than the illness?

It’s a real question to consider – when IS the cure worse than the illness?  Medically or scientifically, it is all about the net result.  If the net result from the treatment is worse than the illness (or potentially so), then the cure is worse than the illness.  But how do you measure things like quality of life or the long term (years into the future) effects of treatment when you’re just trying to breathe or when you have goals that require staying on earth until the time specific goal is achieved?  Most of us would take our chances I bet.

Over the past month three people I know through life, not because cancer, have died either from lung cancer or perhaps from the long term toll that lung cancer treatment takes on the body.  Their lung cancer journeys were all different.  None were elderly. All lived life to fullest until that was simply no longer possible.  My thoughts of healing and strength and prayers are with their families.

So how do we know what to do when faced with unknown options?  No one can say for sure what the longterm effect of some of these treatments will be.  That’s one reason we have clinical trials,  and research studies over many years.  Well, for me personally in my situation the answer is easy.  Unless the quality of life with treatment makes it impossible to find joy in the everyday on most days, then I choose life here for a while longer.  And that means treatment.  We had a little glimpse of what life without treatment was like.  We know I wouldn’t have been able to sustain that for long.

We know too that this treatment  comes with a price, not just a monetary one. I think it is impossible to avoid it changing many lives forever.   I say “we” often because this journey is our journey, mine and Dan’s, along with our family.  I don’t want to make decisions alone as they are not just for me.  That’s not how we do life.  And seriously, I wouldn’t last long on my own.  It is wanting to be part of “we” that keeps me going.  But the price is high, for everyone.  Maybe it’s just what families do, but I sure wish it wasn’t something they have to do, and I think it shouldn’t have to be.

Last fall I met a woman who chose treatment for a cancer many years ago.  It was successful – she’s here, decades later!  She described to me the longterm effects on her body.  It was impressive, not in a good way.  She has had multiple medical procedures and has some serious health issues related to that treatment long ago.  But she also described many of the things she has accomplished in the time “given” to her by treatment.  A trade-off, I guess.

We all have to choose our own paths.  My heart goes out to the loved ones of lung cancer patients.  Whether it is a stage IV diagnosis caught too late, or an early diagnosis that can be cured, the journey is tough.  I know.  We traveled it with my grandfather and my father.  Whether it is months of caregiving or years, the primary focus is on the patient while often caregivers are working, filling the household role of the patient, and doing the caregiving.  There is not an appropriate framework of support for them, and with the focus on the patient, caregivers often don’t advocate for themselves.

Maybe someday not so far off treatment will be available for lung cancer to be considered a chronic, manageable disease instead of the deadly one it is now.  Not a cure, but safe treatment for a managed disease.

There are things we can all do(regardless of treatment choice):

Reach out to some of those caregivers. (I can think of many times with other friends or family members when I wish now I’d done more, hadn’t thought I was too busy or someone else was doing it or it wasn’t needed.  I can do better going forward.) Just knowing you are thinking about the caregiver helps.  Maybe see if you can drop off a meal, offer to hang out with the patient so they have time for themselves, offer to do some “chores”.  Just the offer may really help.

Support increased lung cancer research by contacting your representatives.  We can change this for future generations.  There are exciting things happening in the fields of targeted therapy and immunotherapy.  If you want to help with a donation, please consider supporting ROS1 cancer research  https://www.lungcancerfoundation.org/patients/ros1/contribute-ros1/

HOPE, always have hope.

As you can see below, we are at our Salt Pond camp, enjoying the everyday every day.   And yes, even Dottie and Matilda, our two Nigerian dwarf goats, are here and loving the oak leaves.  We had a wonderful family weekend at Spencer Pond Camps.  I’m looking forward to the start of “Camp Gramma” next week, when I’ll get eased back into the fun with 2 of the four “campers”.  I’m working hard at staying healthy in every way I can, mind and body, and reading everything from Winnie the Pooh to Radical Remission (both inspirational!).   I plan to enjoy every minute of the grandchildren’s fun.  A busy summer ahead with many more opportunities for making memories.

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Neither here nor there

Neither here nor there, but where?  Not complaining, just explaining! This struck me when I saw two photos recently.  One from when I was very ill, but starting to improve after two months on crizotinib (targeted therapy drug for ROS1+ lung cancer).  The second, looking quite healthy, taken recently in the beautifully painted walkway, the Bridge of Hope that connects Dana-Farber with Brigham and Women’s.

It’s weird – this state of limbo (not the “place “Limbo!) that we Stage IV lung cancer patients live in.  It’s just so different from my mindset or life in general before cancer.  You see, lucky stage IV cancer patients are informed their disease cannot be cured, but can be treated, thus prolonging their life. (Some may just be told that it’s time to get their affairs in order.)  In my case when I initially asked if I could take my first targeted therapy drug crizotinib forever, my oncologist thought I meant that I thought I would now go on to live a normal life and die of old age at 100 as planned. So she felt obligated to say no and went on to say that some patients had extended their lives by more than a year on this drug.  (I know someone that just celebrated six years on crizotinib!)  Also in my case though, and I’d guess most, just to know you might be given the time you need to think about all the things you should have already done to prepare for the inevitable gives you hope.  Hope = Time, but does Time = Hope?  Probably. I’ll think about that.

But as I said, “It’s weird.”  I mean, really.  People thought I was a goner for sure two years and four months ago. I looked like I was and everyone knows the stats are dismal for Stage IV lung cancer.  And here I am now looking quite healthy.  I wonder what people think – cured? Nope, I wish.  Do you do like the song says and “live like you were dying”?  What’s that look like anyway?  I wouldn’t want to live the way I was during the few months we thought I was dying.  Now if it means do all the things on your life list – well, now that would be great if one is physically able to.  What’d we do?  Got two Nigerian Dwarf goats (complete with a barn at home and at camp), modified Camp Gramma by having a mom there to help Gramma, and tried to get back to a normal life.  Eventually I stopped teaching to focus on my health.  Not on my life list, not even the goats.  Alpacas were though.  I’m so glad we got our goats!  They are just wonderful, fun, loving, and very entertaining.  Alpacas are much more work.

Another weird thing – clothes.  I was just starting to replace things from the fire when I got sick.  Now I don’t want to invest a lot in things I either won’t be able to use or won’t get good use of.  Silly?  Maybe.  (For example instead of replacing my Marmot down jacket I bought a White Sierra one that will keep me warm for the short time I’m out in the cold.)  And then there’s the fact that since radiation I can’t stand certain clothes.  Or that when my tummy bloats I just want my comfy pants.  I’ve solved pretty much all of it by buying a few of a few things that are comfortable and presentable enough, and have no metal so I can wear them around and even to appointments and leave them on for scans.  Footwear is a challenge.  Still working on that.  Weird, right?  Being challenged by knowing what to buy for footwear when you’ve been wearing the same size shoe for 50 years? Whether it is meds or cancer, my feet are not what they were, and that’s weird.

Yup, weird.  Like being stuck.  Feeling ready to get back to really living, but not feeling quite well enough to.  Just when you think you know what this life can look like, something changes. I know that happens from time to time for everyone, but it is a way of life for Stage IV lung cancer patients.  And all the while life goes on normally around you as it should be and as you want for it to.

There are more examples, but you get the point. Neither here in the present fully, nor there in my past where I lived fully for 58 years.  Not really knowing how to think about the future (except to be hopeful), living for the present, but differently.  Yet I am grateful to be here, to have hope, to be able to enjoy the everyday every day.  I’ve had so many firsts since my diagnosis  – I think I’m more aware of them now. A recent first is watching a family of fox kits.  But I’ve had many others.  Things that being given the gift of time, the gift of being able to be home, and the gift of being “well enough” have made possible.   Some people, many really, with this disease are not so lucky as to be able to ponder its weirdness or to be given this gift of time.  And yes, TIME=HOPE.  Always, always have hope.

Oh, yes!  I have checked something off my life list that I bet I never would have if cancer hadn’t shifted my focus.  I’m in the midst of publishing a children’s book that I wrote in 1991.   Very fun to think about.  Written in my past life, being illustrated (not by me – ha!) in the present, it will be ready in the future!

Here I am enjoying the everyday every day with Dan and the family, and feeling ever so hopeful about the future.

Normal must be overrated

Who really wants things to be normal anyway?  I never did, but then I didn’t really need normalcy before.  This normal isn’t new or normal in the typical sense, but it is my normal as I live with metastatic cancer.  And live well I must say.  To do so I’ve needed to develop many strategies and work arounds.  And I’ve had a lot of help.  But it’s all definitely worth it.  Quality of life really matters.  Maybe some of my strategies will work for others.

Learning and remembering your energy limits is important.  Kind of tricky too as it’s a moving target.  There are days I have great energy and some that I have a deep, deep odd tiredness.  Most days though I wake up, get myself going and go strong until noon.  After that?  Anybody’s guess.  I learned this week that I’m no longer able to push through it like I always did in my old life.  When I’m done, I’m done.  Kind of like a baby. And that is okay!  I prioritize and sometimes have bonus time for something more.

“Love what you do. Do what you love.”  I’ve always believed this makes great sense.  Well there’s lots of things I love, but can’t do anymore, or not yet in this “normal”.  That’s okay too because I’ve discovered I love lots of things.  So I’m focusing more time on the ones I can still do (like photography, being in nature) and maybe just adjusting how I do them.  And I’m learning and doing new things too!  Things like writing a blog! I sure have more time to read now, and I love to read pretty much anything.  I have four books going right now; one fiction, two health related, and one nonfiction nature-based.  None on education -that’s a first!

Shortness of breath, my huffing and puffing.  Haven’t really found good strategies except to go slow and steady.   Not likely to do much running this spring, but I am determined to do more walking in my new OrthoFeet sneakers.

And then there’s the digestive system issues.  When I first started crizotinib I took a few different meds before my system could tolerate it being there. Imodium went with me everywhere because I never knew when I’d have a bout of diarrhea. And no advance notice usually, so pads or disposable underwear, extra clothing, disposable wipes.  Carried my backpack everywhere.  That doesn’t seem normal, but it became routine. In addition to the clothes I try to remember to carry food that I know I can eat in case I can’t eat what is available.  With Queen Lorlatinib, my current targeted therapy drug, the digestive system issues are much less for me at this time. (Fingers crossed!)

Lorlatinib brought some new challenges that I’ve referred to earlier.  One, neuropathy, is common for people on chemotherapy drugs and for people with diabetes.  As much as I love to go barefoot, I cannot now, even in the house.  Anyone who has an inkling that they have neuropathy in their feet should start wearing shoes or slippers ALL the time.  I learned the hard way.  If you have hand neuropathy, try acupuncture – helped me tremendously.  I tried some of the ointments and cannabinoid oil, but I haven’t found something yet that I can say gives me relief from neuropathy.  Wearing gloves for any work and even driving, and keeping my feet well padded have worked best.  And, I just don’t stand still for long periods of time or do lots of peeling veggies as those as things that are sure to bother.  I’m so fortunate that I don’t have to try to work.  Luckily I’m a good sleeper, so it doesn’t bother too much at night.  Oh yes, and ignore the feeling that a tick is crawling on your ankles.  Or maybe not.  Probably just neuropathy, but best to check.  I spend a lot of time looking at my ankles!

Weight has been an interesting problem over the past 2 years, four months.  After the fire in the fall of 2015 I decided to only buy what I absolutely needed for clothing.  Then as I became sick I began to lose weight.  By the time I started on crizotinib (March 2016) I’d lost more than 30 lbs. and I’m only 5’0″ and wasn’t ever terribly overweight.  Between cancer taking its toll and radiation doing a number on my esophagus, I had a few months of not eating much, eating mostly liquid form foods, etc.  And, as far as clothes went, thanks to radiation I couldn’t stand anything near my neck or wear a bra. So my daughter bought me some size small stretchy pants and v-necked loose tops.  That’s been my preferred wardrobe ever since.  I eventually gained all that weight back when on crizotinib.

Weight gain is common with these drugs, but I had no idea what I was in store for with Lorlatinib when I began it July 2017.  Everyone I know on this targeted therapy drug (still in clinical trial) has had this problem to some degree.   I started out gaining a pound a week.  Yes, one pound per week! Eeek!  And it was not simply that I was feeling better and eating more, or that I wasn’t able to exercise enough. But,  thanks to the stretchy clothes I just moved to medium, keeping in mind my “fire resolution” and bought only what I needed.  I was beginning to feel uncomfortable with the extra weight.  By January I had gained 20+ since beginning Lorlatinib. July to January, as much as my pregnancy weight gain.  From March 2016 to January 2017 that’s a 50 lb weight gain.  (Both pregnancies combined!)  Without even trying to lose the 30 or gain back the 30 plus 20.  Finally, in January the trial nurse mentioned someone having success with a paleo diet, so I tried that.  (I wrote about it earlier.) Paleo works for this!  I immediately lost 8 pounds and haven’t gained more.  As long as I feel “well” I can do this.  As I’ve learned, weight loss from cancer and treatment AND weight gain as a side effect are common.  I work with and around this by eating well and wearing my comfy clothes.

Finally,while trying to understand this “normal”, I think maybe the greatest lesson and the greatest blessing that I’ve gained from this journey is that it is more than just okay to let or even ask others to do things for you. I couldn’t do anything for someone else and very little for myself when I was so very ill.  That’s when I began to truly understand what gratitude and expressing your gratefulness does, not just for you, but for those you’re grateful to.  People who care want to do things to make your life easier and brighter when you are struggling with something in life. I still want to do everything for myself, but I don’t feel badly asking for help or letting someone else do what I don’t have energy or strength to do.  I feel loved and grateful. And I like to look for things I can do that will brighten their days.

Late this week I go to Dana-Farber for scans, blood work, brain MRI, EKG, and oncology appointment.  Dan will drive and wait patiently for me every step in the day.  I will post an update, hopefully by the weekend.  The prayers,positive energy and thoughts of all who follow this cancer journey give me strength.

Baseball and softball have started for the children. Fun times for grandparents.   Finding joy in the everyday every day here with Dan, the family, the 3 little dachshunds, and Dottie and Matilda, Nigerian Dwarf goats.

 

Big Night, Big Week

Big Night is an amphibian phenomenon.  It’s fascinating, and I’m very glad I learned about it, and about how humans feel a responsibility to help.  On the first rainy night in April salamanders and some frogs migrate from their winter home to their breeding pools.  Often this means crossing a road, so that’s where people come in.  They help move the salamanders and frogs across the road.  Yes, on a rainy April night, way past dark, people go out to help on Big Night.

So I got to thinking about it.  I understand that they need to stay wet, so rain is needed.  I understand that they avoid sun for the long journey, so travel at night.  But why do they cross the road?  Why not find a vernal pool on their side of the road?  I mean really.  I saw the poor little guys crawling over that winter “salt sand” to even reach the road.  Why?  Simple.  They are returning to their ancestral breeding pool, not just any vernal pool.  And so that adds to why it is so wonderful that people help them.  It is our responsibility since we put the road in their way. Here’s one naturalist’s explanation (and an interesting  blog to follow).  Mary Holland’s “Big Night” explanation

I first went out on Big Night last year.  We (my sister, niece, and a friend, new to big night!) went out on a night that wasn’t so big this year.  I couldn’t go out a couple nights later on what turned out to be Big Night because I’d had a Big Week.  Either my targeted therapy drug or cancer cause me to have less energy and stamina.  But that’s okay.  It’s because of crizotinib and now lorlatinib (and so much that’s not medical) that I can think about going next year.  And, the other really wonderful thing about me learning about Big Night is that I shared it with others who love it now too.  On Big Night my phone chimed on the bedside and sure enough, there was a pic of my granddaughter holding a salamander.  The whole family was out in the rain with friends, way past bedtime, to save lives.  What a great learning adventure for the children (and their parents)!

Big Night came in a big week for me.  The night before the “night I went out searching” was certainly a big night for me.  I went to see the Wizard of Oz!  Yup.  Somewhere Over the Rainbow for me.  And not just me!  I got to enjoy the show with four of my grandchildren (the campers) and my son, daughter-in-law, and daughter.  We all rode together and went to dinner before.  Everything, even (or maybe especially) the car ride was so great.  What a treat the evening was!   There’s so much I could say about how much that evening meant to me in any life.  Yet, I can’t even think how to describe exactly what it means to me in this second life I’m in.  Just so precious and special.

To top off my big week, my sister, a friend, and I went to Bar Harbor  yesterday and walked the trail in the village that goes along the ocean , stopping of course for lunch, but too filled for Pugnuts ice cream on the way home.  I tried out my new sneakers from Ortho Feet.  Pretty good!  Roomy, well cushioned, comfortable.  Not too stylish, but luckily that’s not what I was looking for.  I was looking for something that would help with the neuropathy discomfort when walking.

Dan and our son have been working on traps in the field by the house, readying them for lobstering “season”.  How nice it is to be here to prepare lunch for them.  I’m grateful that I don’t have to struggle to try to keep working like I was last year at this time.  I’ve loved my winter at home as much as I loved my fall at our camp.  Today I made a sauce with tomatoes I froze (whole by the way) from our summer garden.  Soon we’ll be planting again.

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Enjoying the everyday every day. Me. Now.

Season of Hope

If I had a favorite season, it would be spring.  There are things I truly love about each season.   Spring just has so much to love.  Even with the ground and everything else covered with FEET of snow, I felt spring yesterday. The vernal equinox was 12:15 PM.  I was at a meeting of a Maine Lung Cancer Coalition advisory group when spring began, but two hours later as we stepped outside into the sunshine, even surrounded by parking lot snowbanks, I felt spring and breathed a big sigh of relief. Phew, I made it, made it to spring.  I bet lots of animals have that thought, perhaps not at the moment , but later, when the snows melt and the trees leave.

Sigh of relief?  Made it? You see, many years ago my grandmother pointed out that more people die in winter and she said if she made it to spring, she’d go a while longer.  She nearly made it to 100.  This was my third big sigh of spring relief.  The first in 2016 I was just 18 days into my first targeted therapy treatment and knew from how I felt that it was working.  Huge sigh of relief.  I would conquer the beast inside my body certainly long enough to enjoy another spring. Today I’m feeling pretty darn good, in great shape for the shape I’m in. The beast is once again contained by the targeted therapy drug Lorlatinb.

I love all the things in nature in spring like most people do who are lucky enough to notice, from the smell of the mud to hearing new songs each morning and evening.  There’s so much to see and look forward to.  Everything seems new or renewed, just born or re-born. My babies are spring babies.  For all beings, I think it must be the season of hope, spiritually and physically.

Today memories of “springs past”, sprang into my head.  Ha! True though.  Memories like the leaves in front of me as I crossed the Waldo-Hancock bridge for years daily, first simply appearing and then over weeks changing their shades of green . There’s really nothing else like spring green. Dan’s grandmother’s joy in attending Easter sunrise service and breakfast with her great-grandchildren, so sweet. Then there’s the Easter 55 years ago (give or take a year or two) when we camped out in the woods behind our house. Easter Bunny didn’t know what to think.  I think it really happened, my younger brother wouldn’t remember because I was the baby then. I do remember that. Or the April 42 springs ago, that my “ready to be born” daughter nearly jumped out of my body when the engine of the Patty P II, her grampa’s boat, was started for the first time ever.  A few days after that we went on a rough road to go “alewiving” (alewife the fish) to see if we might jiggle her out.  Spring memories.

In recent years a great memory maker is our now annual family weekend at  Spencer Pond Camps , off the grid  wilderness lakeside cabins in the Moosehead region of Maine.  Dan, me, our children and their spouses, and our five grandchildren fishing, hiking, bike riding, kayaking, moose spotting, toasting marshmallows and playing games in the evening, and even relaxing in the porch swing.  So many memories.  Moving to our Salt Pond camp, now even more exciting with Dottie and Matilda, the Nigerian Dwarf goats, riding along.  The year we lived at camp I saw the return of ducks and other migrating birds.  Closing my eyes, I see spring sunrises from the Salt Pond to Grand Canyon. Spectacular, all. Planting the garden, and patiently (or maybe not) waiting for something, anything to come up.  Dan working on his lobster boat and traps, readying them for another year.  Every spring for about 46 years.  Picnics at the boatyard during April vacation.  Memories.  And new spring traditions. Last year was my first spring Big Night, the first rainy evening in April when  the salamanders cross the roads and people go out and help assure their safe crossing.  Quite the phenomenon!  A fun time and I hope we helped the little guys out.  Started a phenology journal so I can follow the changes from year to year.  So many memories.

Watching the goldfinches acquire their gold today (you can almost see it happening), I think of watching Mr. and Mrs. Merganser the spring we lived at camp.  How beautiful and  how different he looked from Mama Merganser and her babies in summer. Spring memories.  Looking forward to seeing the snowshoe hares in the field soon.  And baseball and softball.  Lots of memories to make.  Looks like a busy spring for this Gramma.

Time to re-hibernate and rest up – there’s more snow on the way.   Reminds me of the April snowstorm in 1975 when I was stranded on a hill in Orland.  Out of the blinding snow appeared the dad of my best childhood friend.  Hadn’t seen him for a decade, and there he was to rescue me.

Here in our winter home on the mountainside, finding joy in the everyday every day with Dan, the family, our three little dachshunds, and Dottie and Matilda, our Nigerian dwarf goats.  Dreaming of springs to come.

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